Familiar situation: a generous offer, or an unexpected (‘too-good-to-be-true’) situation knocks on the door. Perhaps it comes even at a time when a good pick-me-up is needed.
And we become suspicious.
Thinking that there will be a ‘catch’, a payment of some sort in return for a generous favour, often times we either refuse it, or otherwise spend a considerable amount of time ‘weighing the pros and cons’. In the meanwhile, even if we accept, the object of our attention no longer has the initial appeal.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
The real issue is not the offer, regardless of quality or quantity. The real cause for concern is our perception: in whatever we do, there is always a giving and a taking. It’s inevitable. As ordinary human beings, we are concerned about the self. It’s a survival tool, without it we would simply wither away, seeing no reason for our existence. The issue at heart is that we center ourselves in a negative space: life being a give-and-take, the assumed impression is that the ratio between being taken from vis-a-vis being given to us is low.
A call for a fresher perspective is needed: all our actions will lead to some loss. When we breathe, we are sustaining ourselves – but we are also allowing old age to creep onto us. Paramount to us is then to understand that life, and us all in it, are tied in circles of reciprocities and exchange. It is the way we grow and mature as individuals within a community. There is no other way.
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